Finding the perfect piece of jewelry for your Valentine is an art only a few have mastered, as jewelry is a representation of who we are, what we are saying to the world, and what we choose – so we (women) take it very personally and very seriously and heavily scrutinize these gifts you (guys) give us to our Moms, sisters, and girlfriends. And you (the gifter) is either put on a pedestal or a chopping block.
It is not that we are ungrateful. We are happy that you took the time to go to a store and we are happy for the thought, but if you are our chosen person we are expecting a little more than that. When people say it’s the thought that counts, I assume they have never had their husband present them with giant feather earrings when such earrings have never been part of your wardrobe before. That just opens the floor up for interogation.
We take this rather careless purchasing approach as “you don’t know us at all!” Or worse, “why am I with a man who doesn’t know that I like dainty statement pieces or vintage rather than costume?” We take it as you do not pay attention to us, which is a feeling that unless address immediately will fester.
So this article is a gift for the men out there hopelessly trying not to screw up gifting. Treat this as an access to a wealth of knowledge directing you to a one-stop customizable shop to get out of the dog house because last Valentine’s day you screwed up and bought the women you’ve been with for years something that does not represent her properly. Guys, meet Sofia Kaman, and you’re welcome.
Knowing I am a girl with particular taste I decided to design my own engagement ring on a hotel note pad with my (now) husband at dinner one night. For those who say this takes the romance and surprise out of the process, I guarantee it does NOT. After being an emotional support human to girls who were presented with engagement rings they do not like, I can tell you this…knowledge is power. Gaining knowledge together is a partnership.
If I was in their shoes, with my man kneeling presenting me with a ring that I did not like, I do not know if I could say yes. I would revert back to thinking, “this dude doesn’t know me at all – I wanted an emerald cut not a 4 carat radiant SI2!” Yes, because my husband and I went this route we were wooed by everyone from Cartier to the diamond district and learned a lot in the process. I can basically give you a rundown on cut, clarity, carats, and color which I would never have known without this educational experience. And I can assure you I was more than surprised when he decided to propose as that part was kept secret and executed at a time when I had no earthly idea it would happen as we were dressed up in penguin onesies on a penguin colony in Ushuaia, Patagonia. Youtube penguin proposal. So summing up – I ended up with a ring I love, new diamond wisdom, and a surprise propsal. What that means – happy freaking husband.
I met Sofia Kaman after a friend showed me her unique vintage pieces on her soft palate Instagram. Check her out at @SofiaKaman. It is as if each piece tells a complete romantic story about the person wearing it. The design is feminine with an edge. Her pieces are elegant, sophisticated, and bespoke.
Upon our first design meeting, I handed Sofia the notepad with my elementary sketch of the engagement ring I wanted. She smiled sweetly and in her soft poised manner, discussed at length the process of which metals were malleable, what to use to get the desired effect, and the reasons certain stones would not work for engagement rings. We both eagerly learned how you get from the design stage to finger.
Sofia’s craftsmanship and knowledge of her craft were immediately recognized and appreciated during that first meeting. The passion at which she spoke in vast detail of metal sounded like Nikola Tesla describing alternating current. That level of passion in one’s craft gives off an aroma that keeps you coming back for more, like In and Out but in a healthy way. My husband and I decided that we wanted her to design both of our wedding rings. My husband literally told Sofia in a design meeting that he wants his ring to look like a meteor hit the gold and left a black diamond crater. And that was accomplished.
For those tortured with the notion they might disappoint a loved one with the wrong gift this Valentine’s day, or any other day – because the best gift giving times are not when society tells you to gift, but when you feel it in your heart, we encourage you to take a meeting with Sofia as we did and create a mindful experience around the sacred objects we put on our bodies.
Read more about Sofia Kaman here
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